Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Time to Step Up Men!

Okay men, yes you, you heterosexual-in-a-stable-relationship men who, along with your partner, are certain you do not want any or more children.  It’s time to get snipped. Oh come on, stop covering up your groin with your hands and call the urologist already!

If you think I am joking I am absolutely not.  It peeves me how many women I speak to, both personally, and professionally as a therapist, who tell me their partners refuse to get a vasectomy.  These women are left with the burden of responsibility for birth control, because, by the way, most of these men don’t like condoms either.  Consequently, many have to use IUDs or birth control pills, often suffering from unpleasant, and sometimes serious, side-effects.

Okay dudes, women have no choice but to endure messy and often painful periods for about 4 decades of their life, as well as, if they choose, pregnancy, childbirth/C-sections, and breast feeding.  Sometimes they are forced to undergo surgeries for cysts, fibroids and more.  And you can’t get poked just once? 

Tubal ligation is a far more invasive option than a vasectomy, especially since the procedure is now usually done laparoscopically.  And, it really isn’t that bad.  I’ve known lots of men who have had them and none have reported any trauma from the even.  Adam offered to have one after our second child was born and did have it performed when she was 6 months old.  Now he can get just as big a man cold as any other guy, but he did just fine with it.  A bag of frozen peas on his crotch while watching television for a few nights and that was about the extent of it.

So stop whining and make that call!

1 comment:

  1. Awww! I have to agree with you. I hope more men would open up their minds and realize that getting a vasectomy is indeed an ideal approach to family planning. Women have endured a lot already, including giving birth and monthly periods, right? Vasectomy is a one time deal and it can help the family a lot. I hope men would start being men and just undergo the procedure.

    Harold Judelman