Thursday, May 23, 2013
The Birds and the Bees and the Birdees App
If you are a parent of young children, or are not yet a parent, you may be wondering when to start discussing sex with your kids.
As an infertility counsellor, believe it or not, this issue comes up with my clients all the time. For anyone using donor sperm or egg, there always needs to be a discussion about how to disclose this information to the child and when to do so. But regardless of whether your children were naturally conceived, the product of donor or adopted, the answer as to when to start talking about sex is the same: as early as possible!
Believe it or not, humans are sexual creatures from the day they are born. We do not suddenly become aware of our bodies or develop sexual urges after puberty. Also, nowadays children are exposed to sexualized images and messages very early on.
Beginning to talk to your kids about sex can begin as early as age 2, and should definitely start as soon as they are asking questions about their bodies. What you say and how you present the information will differ, somewhat, depending on the child and on their developmental stage, but it should always be accurate, involve correct anatomical names, and be presented in as simple and non-judgemental a way as possible.
There are lots of books that can help you with this, but if gadgets are more your speed - or more the speed of your little ones - than you may want to check out the new Birdees App that provides detailed information on anatomy, sex and reproduction tailored specifically for children in all age groups.
However you decide to discuss this stuff with your kids, just make sure you do it, and do it sooner rather than later. Remember, you as a parent have the power to help your children develop a healthy attitude towards sex and their bodies. Be approachable. Be accepting. Be open-minded. Stay calm and welcome their curiosity!
Disclaimer: I was not compensated for this post and all opinions expressed are my own.