In my Theories of Personality course we have been studying the concept of regression, which actually originates in Freudian psychoanalytic theory. I think a lot of Freudian theory is hogwash, but his work on defense mechanisms actually has some merit. Regression, or the return to a previous state of functioning, is one of the many defense mechanisms Freud believe that we use to protect our ego from external threats, or disturbing thoughts or situations. Regression is the one defense mechanism which usually occurs in children.
We seem to be dealing with regression with Big A a lot lately. It has been a really tough weekend. She has been whining and acting up constantly. I think jealousy of Little A is growing more and more as Little A grows. Big A wants to be fed, she wants to be carried, she claims she doesn't know how to put on her shoes (although after we told her she would not get a new big girl bicycle for her birthday unless she started putting on her own shoes, she suddenly remembered how...). When we hit these lows in her behaviour I always start questionning my parenting and wondering where I went wrong. I desperately wish I could get the Supernanny to come visit, but apparently she only does house calls in the U.S. and Great Britain. There are parents who need you here in Canada Supernanny!!
The timing of all of this sucks, of course, because Adam leaves tomorrow for a 3 day book tour to promote his latest book. I can only imagine how out of hand this is all going to get with me trying to manage both girls on my own. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger...right?